The Destination Wedding.

Hello fellow brides to be and welcome to my third edition of wedding blog Saturday!

Today I would like to talk about my personal wedding planning journey: our destination wedding.

The story of my fiance and I is a bit fairytale like, so after he proposed to me it was clear that our wedding has to be something special. We talked for days about where we wanted to get married. I researched for weeks, maybe months to find the perfect location. Our dream scene was an outdoor ceremony. Maybe a beach or in a garden. As long as it was outside.

First we had the idea of just getting married where the majority of our guests live. But then we realised how much this idea doesn’t even come close to what we want our special day to be like, after all this scenario only benefited our guests. The next thought was England. A small ceremony in a nice little cottage. Didn’t work, because we REALLY want sun. Back to the drawing board. Being nontraditional is hard work!

After a few weeks I came across a bride who got married in a small town in Tuscany. So we hopped on a plane and checked it all out. WOW. Yes that was it. We were in love! It had so many benefits:

1. It’s away from our known surrounding. Something special, exotic and simply different. It will be unforgettable!

2. Only the people who truly want to be there will make an effort. Those who only rock up for the free food will automatically be ruled out. Small guest list – intimate and simple.

3. We are very close to our family, but sadly don’t get to see them a lot. This way we will spend the most special time in our lives with them.

4. It’s warm!! In Italy the sun is always shining. We can spend the whole day outside and enjoy the beautiful scenery.

5. We did all calculations and our wedding will be cheaper than a traditional wedding close to home AND we will have a whole week instead of just one day.

All up it is going to be a simple natural wedding. 5 months until our wedding day! 😉

Just a few things to consider:

We would recommend this step to any couple who wants to make their day into something special. There are so many great places that offer destination packages. If you have a small engagement choose a place that offers a whole package. This way you don’t have to worry about a thing. If you are like me and have a long engagement and therefore plenty of time for DIY projects, get your hands dirty. It is super fun organising everything and being creative.

Before you get all excited and send out your invites make sure you think about these things:

1. Where do you want to be married? Simple question but make sure you find what suits you best.

2. Guest list: If you want everyone you know to be there, a destination wedding might not be for you. You will most likely end up with a small number of guests.

3. How will everyone get there?

4. Is travel and accommodation affordable for your guests? Decide what you will pay for and what your guests have to invest.

5. Legalities in your chosen country. Get your information in as much time prior to your big day. Sometimes you need special documents etc.

If any of you have questions about this topic, don’t hesitate to ask. I have spend so much time and am happy to give anyone a helping hand.

VJ xxx

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Mistakes to avoid while planning your wedding

Welcome to another Saturday wedding blog! I know it’s not Saturday anymore, but I had a really busy day and hey – it’s still Saturday somewhere in the world!

So let’s start. As a busy bride there are millions of things we need to remember. Planning is crucial, but sadly sometimes all these things can stress us out a little and mistakes happen. Here is a list of some things that help you avoid those disasters.

1. So many brides have told us this – don’t get influenced by the fancy pants stereotypical things. It’s your day! If you want a pool party, why the hell not?! You don’t have to be traditional, you don’t have to marry in white or go on your honeymoon straight after dinner. Enjoy yourself. You’re celebrating the love between you and your significant other – anything is possible.

2. I know we all get carried away with our Pinterest boards. I know I do. But let’s not forget that most of these gorgeous photos are from high budget weddings. Of course they look fabulous. If your budget is unlimited then go for it, but if it isn’t, don’t be sad if things don’t end up looking like your dream boards. It’s ok to stick to a realistic budget.

3. Venue. Having a venue with a fantastic view is great. But if you’re planning on starting your reception in the late afternoon or at night time, that view will be gone because the sun has probably set by then. Also try to think of the number of guests you are planning to invite. Unused space will still have to be paid for and a huge room with 30 people looks ridiculous. Be smart here.

4. That leads me to the next point. Guest list. Who to invite? I know it’s hard once you start brainstorming. If you invite this person, then you have to invite that person too. Says who?! You DO NOT have to explain yourself. It’s your wedding and you’re paying. I wouldn’t exclude someone’s wife or husband simply because you don’t like them. That’s not what I mean, but if your forever single cousin has started dating yet another new girl and you know she will be replaced in a month, then don’t force yourself to invite this person. Same goes with work mates. Yes you see them every day but are they close enough to you to spend $150 on? Try a ‘work bridal shower’ or go and have coffee with them. I’m sure they will understand.

5. Music. I know it sounds romantic to have a harp or guitar solo playing while walking down the aisle, but musicians can be expensive. For budget brides pick a song on a CD. When the time comes, you won’t be looking at the musician. You will be busy admiring your gorgeous husband. Same goes with bands. An affordable alternative is a great DJ. Keyword great. If you have no idea what his work is like you’re better off going through the effort of creating your own playlist – with songs you know you will love – rather than having to sit through your party with no entertainment because your DJ is hopeless. Do your homework. Music can make or break your party.

6. Photographer. It’s either one of the first or last things you will think about. Having fantastic photos of your big day may not seem as important now, but in a few years it will be the only thing that lets you remember details about your wedding. It sounds great to hire a cheap photographer, but quantity is not always quality. Invest in those memories. You won’t get a second chance to relive them.

If you are a photographer like I am, you already know how hard it is to find someone that lives up to your expectations. I’ve got a great little trick for you that I just recently came across. Regardless of whether you are hiring an expensive or affordable photographer on your wedding day – choose another day after the wedding and gussy yourself up again. Pick a great location and take some photos of yourself and your husband/wife. Don’t believe me? Here is proof: http://davidcampbellimagery.com/2014/01/deathvalleywedding.html

This great photographer gave it a shot and took photos of him and his wife. They took turns in photographing or used a tripod. Great idea if you ask me. No stress, super fun and you get to wear your dress again!

7. Money you will forget you have to spend: Things like flowers or postage for your invites is easily forgotten. How will you get your Thank You cards to your guests? Remember that flowers can get expensive, especially if you are set on a specific type that isn’t in season. Another thing is your wedding cake. Cakes can be as much as a wedding band and yet you don’t want to miss out on it. Change of name is another thing. Those bureaucratic document changes are painful and expensive. Be prepared.

8. Don’t forget to include breaks and snacks. Your guests will be on their feet just as long as you. They are just as hungry and tired when too much is planned. Nervous brides sometimes forget to include little snacks throughout the day. Especially during the time when you get your portraits taken. Let your guests know what is happening. Let them go for a walk or do their own thing for those couple hours while you’re away. You don’t have to entertain them. There will be enough party later on.

9. Inviting guests to the ceremony but not the reception is just cruel. How would you feel if you’re invited to the ceremony but have to go home straight after? You know you will bring a gift – it’s just manners. Knowing that you’re however excluded from the party fun is unfair. Only invite those who are allowed to attend both. Even if your guest list will be smaller.

10. Find out about your marriage document requirements in plenty of time ahead. This is very important if you’re planning a destination wedding. Some countries require witnesses or registration and other important things.

In the end the most important thing is HAVE FUN. Enjoy this special time in your life. Don’t get stressed out. Get help or hire a wedding planner (they don’t have to be expensive) and just do what makes you happy.

VJ xx

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The ‘4-somethings’.

Today is wedding blog Saturday.
I have decided to post a wedding blog with a different topic every Saturday. The weekend is for things we love. And we all know brides love (preparing for) their wedding!

Today I’ve chosen the 4-somethings a bride needs to find before the big day.

As a wedding planner I know how important it is so get organised in time. 6 months may seem like a long time, but in ‘wedding-time’ it is a blink of an eye. For all of those who still need a bit of research and inspiration, keep reading.

Let’s start with
something OLD
.

Having something old lets the bride connect to her family and her past. Moving forward and creating her own family is an exciting step. Yet it is important to remember where she came from. It’s a symbol of continuity.

something NEW.

A wedding is the next phase of a bride’s life with her husband. Everything is new and exciting. Anything that is literally new is suitable. Typically the wedding dress is the bride’s chosen ‘something new’.

something BORROWED.

Having someone you can always count on represents the something borrowed. It’s a symbol of a bride’s strong ties to her family and friends. She knows that they will always be there when she needs them. Additionally, it can represent that you borrow someone else’s luck and happiness for your wedding day. So only borrow from happy people! 😉

something BLUE.

The ‘something blue’ tradition has been around for centuries. In ancient Rome brides wore blue to symbolise love, and fidelity. Religious views see it as the purety of Virgin Mary. Modern brides portray the something blue with small accessories like shoes, or a hair pin. Sometimes it’s even seen in the wedding gown.

Below are great examples of what to choose for your 4-somethings.:

Something old in the form of a photograph of loved ones, vintage jewellery such as a hair comb or a handkerchief. You can also combine your something old with your something borrowed 😉

Something new. The wedding dress of course! Other things could be shoes or a veil.

Something borrowed. You can pretty much borrow anything, even your dress. But it’s usually an old piece of jewellery, an old pin for your bouquet or an accessory for your dress. But if you’d like to be creative, borrow someone’s nail polish.

Something blue. My personal favourite, as you can be as creative as you like. You can combine other previously mentioned things, such as your something old.

Don’t worry this gallery has not finished. I found a website that shows so many great ideas, so I thought I just post the pinterest link!

http://de.pinterest.com/pin/190980840424191988/

I hope you enjoyed this blog and got some valuable information out of it. If you’d like to read about a specific topic, let me know.

‘Til then, be kind to one another.

VJ xxx

Image Sources: Pinterest.

The key to happiness

Why are we unhappy? I mean are we unhappy?

When I look at the current situation in shops and shopping centres, even supermarkets, I see a large amount of customers that waddle around looking for the perfect something to get their loved ones. Yes you know what I am talking about. It’s Christmas time. The time of joy and love. Well actually from my observation it looks more like the time of empty bank accounts and frustrated faces that circle around the registers transforming into mean and inconsiderate zombies. Am I overdoing it a bit? Perhaps. There may be some people left who don’t get their knickers in a knot when it comes to this subject. But it’s not just about the difficulty of finding a gift or about the long waiting lines or the overworked sales assistant. It’s about much more.

Why do we go through this? Why are we unsatisfied with the content that reveales itself after we unwrapped the beautiful and overpriced ribbon and wrapping on Christmas Day? Easy. Our expectations are too high.

“But I wanted green ones…. But I wished for a bigger one… It’s not the same as this…” See the fake smile? Hear the forced ‘thank you it’s lovely’? Good lord, are you serious? This person almost died in the shop to get you this! Appreciate it! Ok well that’s not really the answer, far from it.

To find the key to happiness we need to figure out the source and cause of our unhappiness. Which things influences us the most? Who tells us what to think? Don’t tell me you’re different and aren’t part of this brainwashed group of idiots. Surely I am too. If I look at my living room I can see multiple devices that came from a company that has the same name as the thing that ‘keeps the doctor away’ if you eat one once a day. Things like ‘better, stronger, smarter, thinner, sexier, or faster’ suck themselves onto our image of happiness and transform it as if it was ‘fixable’ with materialistic things.

You need nothing, nothing but one thing that will not only make you the richest but also happiest person on earth. And that thing is called love. If you love you don’t hate. You don’t fight. You don’t fall into greed or revenge or jealousy. If you love you create harmony and peace. You love your parent or partner right? Prove enough that you would never hurt them or judge them or want to make them upset. You accept them just the way they are with all their faults and flaws. Because you love. You are happy with what you’ve got. You wouldn’t want to change them for the world. Because you appreciate it.

So love what you have. Look at what things are in your home under your possession. And you will see that there is nothing you haven’t got. This collection can only get bigger, but never better or make you happier. If you find your inner love you will share it. Trust me, it’s contacious.

Be be kind to one another.

VJ xx